This year, I’m bucking the to-do trend and making a list of 7 TO-DON’TS for 2018.
Every January, all the boxes of sweets and treats that were on special offer in the supermarkets, are replaced with the latest in fitness and health gadgets. And the media screams that it’s time for a new year, new you. Suddenly you are expected to be working on making everything in your life perfect. It’s time to do this, do that better, and do the other even fiercer. But what about trying mixing it up this year and trying some to-don’ts?
My ritual is to focus on monthly goals and that works for me. Mostly because by end of January, I tend to forgotten what my New Years Resolution even was. But if I draw up monthly goals, that seems more immediate. Ever since I discovered the world of planners (I’m on my 3rd year of keeping one), I’ve become better at hitting goals. Basically because I write them down, see them regularly and actually check in with them.To dos lists are great! But so are to-don'ts! See what 7 things I won't be doing in 2018 #PlannerAddict Click To Tweet
I also love my planner for my daily to-do lists. But lately I’ve been seeing to-don’t lists around the place, and that has gripped my imagination. I think we all need more to-don’t lists in our lives. To do lists are great for encouraging positive behaviour, but I found looking at what is holding me back to be really helpful too. I’m not replacing one with the other, they are my yin and yang, and I think they will work in harmony.
My 7 TO-DON’TS for 2018
Don’t waste time on social media. A huge downfall of mine, and it sucks away my time, my creativity and my energy My word for the year is Carpe Diem. However, when I spend too much time doing the rounds on snapchat/facebook/instagram, I’m watching others carpe diem. And my own moments to carpe diem are floating away from me.
Don’t be a perfectionist. I can never tell myself this enough. Sometimes good enough will do. In November I set myself a challenge of doing a 30 day yoga challenge. And around day 10, I missed a day. Frustrated with myself, I abandoned the challenge. This month I’m trying again, but I’m doing the 30 day challenge in however long it takes me. If it takes 30 good, if it takes 40 good, if it takes 60, that’s still fine.
Don’t use food as an emotional crutch. Over the past few years, I’ve made huge strides with this. But it’s an old habit, and one I have to constantly guard against. Instead of eating my feelings, I need to remind myself to actually feel the feelings and use words to express those thoughts, and not push them in further with food.
Don’t forget to laugh. Don’t forget to smile. Life is too short not to.
Don’t snap at my husband when I’m in a bad mood (or hungry!). I have a bad habit of snapping when I’m tired, or hungry, or just plain old moody. This is a horrible habit, and I wouldn’t do it with anyone else, so why do it to the person I love most?
Don’t wait too long before writing book reviews. 1. Because I forget what the book is about, and have to decipher my notes Thankfully I do use my note-to-book pdf so I do have notes. But fresh thoughts are better. 2. Because it’s weighs on my mind as something I need to do, and can interfere with the enjoyment of my current book 3. Because it escalates too quickly and next thing I have 10 reviews to write. Like now. Why do I do this!
Don’t compare my blogs to other blogs, or my reviews, or my stats. When I do that I start to feel inadequate. Others have so many comments, or eloquent reviews, or engaging topics. I want to appreciate what they do, while also appreciating that my blog is my voice. And only I can offer that.
Talk to Trish: Would you make a to-don’t list? What would you have on it? Are you fighting any of the same battles as me?