Armchair BEA : How to make Blogging Friends

May 29, 2015 Book Event, Bookish Fun 27

Day 3 of Armchair Bea is blogging tips!  This one is right up my alley as I love writing posts about blogging and have never been one to hoard my tips.  I have learnt so much from other bloggers and am happy to pass that karma on.  And I can’t wait to check out the other posts from today too as there is always something new to be discovered.

One thing I often see is that new bloggers are envious of more established bloggers who have made friends over the years. And I get this; it must be hard to feel like an outsider and to be wondering how to break through the fence.

Armchair BEA


So I thought I’d just share my experience and tips to help build up a meaningful network of supportive blogger friends.

– Don’t dismiss memes as boring filler content. Instead find one that you really enjoy and take part.

– However don’t rush around all the participating blogs, leaving half-assed comments. Instead visit fewer and leave meaningful comments when you find one whose content you enjoy.

– If you are new to leaving comments, know that we all felt awkward in the early days leaving them. It gets easier!

– Take the time to visit them back and see if they replied to your comment, that way you can build up a conversation and I know I love when someone replies to a reply on a comment.

– Build up a list of blogs that you enjoy reading and talk to them regularly.

– Follow them on social media. I know it’s starting to sound stalkerish but bear with me! I found that lots of times I followed book bloggers and then discovered we had other shared interests that we also chatted about on twitter, etc.

– I know it takes time to connect on social media but it’s a great investment of your time. And it’s fun to discover another side of the blogger or maybe eliminate those that you end up not liking so much!

– Don’t be impatient and don’t be fake. You won’t find ‘your people’ overnight but it will happen. As long as you stay genuine and aren’t just commenting for the sake of someone visiting you back, then you’d be surprised how quickly your network builds up.

– All my bestie blogger friends are ones I found in the early days through memes. And books are only one of the many subjects we chat about. These are ones I can talk to about issues that arise or blogging worries I might have and blogging without them in my corner would be a lot less fun.

Go forth and network! You can do it!


Talk to Trish : How did you find your blogger friends? Have you any advice to add?

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27 Responses to “Armchair BEA : How to make Blogging Friends”

    • trish

      Good luck, I hope some of my tips work for you! And I think we all worry about it but then you slowly but surely start to develop a solid network of blogging friends.

  1. Carrie @ The Lion is a Bookworm

    I’ll admit I’m one of those people envious of the bloggy friendships some people seem to have. I feel like I’m intruding if I jump in the middle of their commenting or Twitter conversations. Thanks for mentioning memes — those seem to be a “safe” place to make easy connections and hopefully find new friends! It’s part of the reason I joined ABEA this year, I may be a little blog with not many connections but I’m meeting a lot of new people. 🙂
    Carrie @ The Lion is a Bookworm recently posted…Introduction from My Armchair

    • trish

      I’m like that on twitter too, I never know if it’s polite to join in or not! Sometimes people throw out questions though and that is a good time to join in. Or just ask some yourself. Even something as simple as asking for a book recommendation can get you chatting away.

    • trish

      I love taking part in memes as I really think that you build up a relationship with the other bloggers as you visit them every week or so. Especially The Sunday Post as you learn so much about each other 🙂

  2. Cynthia

    Great post. I am still new to the blogging community. My blog is less than a year old. These are great tips. I am trying to become more involved with Twitter so I can make friendships that way. And at first, I made some half assed comments on people’s blogs, but now I am better about only commenting when I actually have something to say.
    Cynthia recently posted…BOOK REVIEW: Those Girls by Lauren Saft

    • trish

      That’s funny Cynthia, I don’t consider you a new blogger, I thought you were around longer than that! I’m the same about the commenting, if I don’t see something that makes me want to comment, I’ll just leave it until another day. I’ve learnt not to force it.

    • trish

      I only do two memes – The Sunday Post, most of the time and TTT, occasionally but like you said the secret is that I love them. I would do TTT more often but I find it too time consuming so instead I wait till the topic is one that I really enjoy.

  3. Lola

    Great tips! I remember when I firts started blogging I felt like an outsider and thought I would never be able to get friends. Joining the sunday post and commenting on other blogs helped me a lot and now more than two years later I can happily say I’ve found some amazing blogger friends :). Joining and being active on social media is also a good one and one I still whish I could be doing better with. And indeed be patient, it can take a while to get to know other bloggers.
    Lola recently posted…Lola’s Kitchen: Apple Crumble Recipe

    • trish

      I know, it’s so hard at the start and it looks like everyone else knows each other. But I did find The Sunday Post and Top Ten Tuesday (which I did a lot at the start) make a big difference. I would like to do more on twitter, etc but I just don’t have the time and I’ve come to accept that. I still enjoy using it but in a limited capacity.

  4. Andie

    This is actually super helpful! I’ve kind of been skulking around the internet, blogging on my own, for a number of years, super unsure of how to connect to people – and these tips are very easy, accessible kinds of things that people can actually do. So thank you 🙂

    • trish

      I’m so glad to hear that! I know that I just didn’t know how to do it at the start either but hopefully my experiences will be of help to you 🙂

  5. Andie

    These tips are super helpful. I’ll be honest, I’ve been blogging and skulking around on the internet on my own for a long time, really unsure of how to connect to anyone or make friends, and this post is really really helpful. So thank you for your honesty and your sincerity here.
    Andie recently posted…Armchair BEA – Character Chatter 😀

  6. R_Hunt @ View From My Home

    Good advice! Above all, allow yourself to be honest. If you don’t agree with someone’s discussion or review you can respectfully disagree or just don’t comment, but don’t be phoney. It will come back to haunt you later when folks learn your personal likes and dislikes.

    That is one of the best parts of following a small, select group of bloggers instead of a huge crowd. I start to discover that person’s favorite genres and authors, but even some people whose books I might not want to read too often still can share some good tips, tell fun personal stories, pass on experience, etc. so don’t discount them right away.
    Okay, before I hijack your thread here, that was me agreeing with your thoughts above 🙂
    R_Hunt @ View From My Home recently posted…Weekly Wrap-Up: 5/29- 5/31/15: reviews, book links & more

  7. Shaina

    Really good tips, Trish! I think you hit the nail on the head about being yourself and finding your people that way. What’s the point of connecting with a whole bunch of people you don’t actually want to talk to, right? 😉

    I admit I can be awful at keeping up comment chains, but getting Disqus on my blog has really helped for that and I appreciate when other blogs have it (or, like yours, send me an email when the blogger replies to my comment). Otherwise, the comments get lost in the ether.

    It’s an ongoing project! 🙂
    Shaina recently posted…Women in Science Are Awesome and Underappreciated, or: A Review of Headstrong, by Rachel Swaby

  8. Deborah

    Great post and fabulous tips. I try to network via social media and visit quite a few blogs but really want to get more involved in the book blogging world!

    Deborah recently posted…Weekly check in

  9. Wattle

    Memes are indeed a great way to meet people in the community, even if you don’t end up becoming friends with them (it always amazes me how many blogs are out there!) I’ve seen some tips from people which dismiss memes, but I think if you put the effort in to them, they are a fun way to spend some time 🙂

    I love your tips Trish, I always feel like I learn something when I visit your blog (which is a good thing!)
    Wattle recently posted…Book Review: Center Ice by Cate Cameron

  10. Bookworm Brandee

    Ooh, I remember the early days when I never left comments because I thought “they don’t care about what I have to say…” But I’ve made some really wonderful friends through blogging and we talk about much more than just books. 😉 These a great tips, Trish. I wish I’d seen something like this, oh, about 4 years ago. *ha*
    Bookworm Brandee recently posted…Teaser Tuesdays #68

  11. Katie @ Doing Dewey

    Great advice! I’ve been surprised that commenting does get easier over time. I feel as though I’ve gotten better at picking out parts of a post that I can respond to in a meaningful way. Social media definitely doesn’t come naturally to me either, but I love when good conversations get going on twitter.
    Katie @ Doing Dewey recently posted…Review: A Deadly Wandering

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