Inspired by books is my new feature where I take a quote from a book that made stop and think. They are ideas that I’d like to explore further and I’d love to hear your thoughts on them too.
Today, the quote is from Vendetta by Catherine Doyle. Which in case you haven’t heard about it before is a YA loosely based retelling of Romeo and Juliet and it’s fabalicious! I can’t recommend this one highly enough to you and I think the fact that it inspired me to make a new feature on the blog speaks volumes for it.
‘Do you think you wear a mask?’
‘I’m wearing one right now.’ Valentino smiled softly. ‘We both are.’
‘It’s a sad thought.’
‘Yes,’ he said. ‘But sometimes I wonder about the alternative. Imagine if we had no secrets, no respite from the truth. What if everything was laid bare the moment we introduced ourselves?’
There is just something about this quote that captured my imagination. I totally agree that we all wear masks all the time. And a lot of the time the mask is worn for a perfectly valid reason. Such a putting on a happy face when going through personal issues; you don’t want to display a Debbie Downer face to everyone you meet. And so you stick that mask on and just fake it till you make it.
Of course then there is the mask that people wear to hide their true colours. Or ones that people stick on to hide their insecurities. Or the ones people use to manipulate others. Or the ones you wear to different parts of your life. You get the idea.
And blogging is a huge area where we wear masks. We only show people the part of our lives that we want others to see. I find lately I’m wearing a mask less and less in blogging. Which is a choice that works for me, I’m showing more and more of my life on here and that is something I’m happy about as it keeps the blog real to me. I’m not saying it’s what everyone should do I’m just saying what fits for me.
So today I’m going to let you in on two masks I commonly wear in real life and that I’m trying not to wear so much:
The People Pleaser Mask : This is a trait I really don’t like about myself. I’m not as bad as I used to be but I find it hard to put myself first and often run rings about myself just to keep others happy. I don’t want to be that person and it’s a mask I just want to pack high up in the closet and never use. Not that I want to piss off everyone in my life, just that I need to learn to put myself first occasionally when something is important.
The Avoidance Mask: I can stick my head in the sand better than any ostrich! It’s not even that I’m hiding my feelings from others, it’s that I pretend to myself they just don’t exist. Unfortunately it only lasts for so long, I always have to face the truth headlong eventually.
I know that wearing masks can be necessary at times and maybe even healthy as it gives up time to sort things out in our own heads before we have to share with others. And they make us less vulnerable which for me is the biggest risk in taking them off. But mostly I just want to be me. I don’t want to have to pretend to be anything I’m not and I find the older I get the easier this is. I am what I am and you can take me or leave me!
Bookish Chat : Do you wear masks? Does it bother you or does it make life easier for you? What one do you wear most often?